Making Dreams Happen

There is a gap between a dream and reality. Close that gap, and your dream will come true.

by Hyphenman on Jun 09, 2014

Dreams, if they’re to be useful, are the incubation period for your goals.

I recently had a loyal Facebook follower tell me that she checks her e-mail basket regularly, “hoping for that one big break that the unknowns such as myself hope to find.”

Hoping for that “one big break” is like hoping to win the Publishers Clearinghouse Sweepstakes.

That’s not really a dream. That’s a fantasy.

  • I’m broke. I can barely afford the rent every month.
  • I’m old. At 67, I’m creeping up on 70. That means brittle bones and slow reactions.
  • If I can’t afford the bike itself, how can I possibly afford the essential incidentals: security chains (over 100 bucks), an alarm system (over $200, plus another $200 for installation), chrome crash bars (over $200 plus installation), insurance (prices range from $600 to $1,200), a Basic Rider Course (over $200) to get my license, protective clothing like gloves, an armored jacket, and a helmet (over $400), upkeep and maintenance?
  • Even now, I’m amazed that a shiny, brand-new Vespa is sitting under my bedroom window, covered and fully protected with an alarm and a heavy-duty chain.

    Roman Holiday.

    The decisive factor for me, believe it or not, was frustration over writing.

    First, there was the Writing Class From Hell, a mixed group of mostly senior citizens who I got to bond with each other and who then shut me out and turned on me, calling me “a facilitator” of their know-nothing discussions. It was a painful and disappointing experience.

    Then there was the Non-Drawing Artist, a man who submitted far more excuses than actual artwork. This was to be a collaborative effort, half text and half drawings, that had the potential of becoming a bestseller.

    In short, I got sick of relying on other people for my own happiness and fulfillment. So I decided to rely exclusively on myself. That’s the one person I can trust to get the job done.

    I knew it was now or never if I were ever to own a Vespa. Through careful planning, I overcame every obstacle (except, of course, my age.)

    image on Pinterest that summarizes my method. It says: “Don’t just daydream. . . . Way-dream. Find the WAY that makes your dream more than merely a wish.”

    The caption underneath the illustration says, “There’s almost always a way.”

    And there is.

    FINAL THOUGHT: Because I know what it represents, I invariably smile whenever I look at the Vespa. – HM

    { 4 comments… read them below or add one }

    1 David Masse June 11, 2014 at 10:28 am

    I sympathize.

    I come from a similar space. I always wanted a Vespa or Lambretta, I always enjoyed writing, and I have realized those dreams.

    I agree that it’s vital to decide to make the dream happen and then persevere.

    In the beginning no one notices. Four years later, life is completely different.

    I’m not famous; I’m not making money at any of it; but I do have a small and loyal group of people who regularly read my posts, some of whom became friends.

    Developing readership, however small it may be, requires consistently week after week, writing something that people find pleasure in reading.

    If you can make them smile, let them find themselves in your experiences, make them think, help them learn things that improve their lives in some way, I believe you’ll be valued as a writer. You’ll be well on your way to becoming an author.

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    2 Hyphenman June 11, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    Thank you, David. I’m sure many people are in our shoes. Drop the writing aspect and legions more are in our shoes. Substitute “Vespa” for some other faraway dream, and the people in our same shoes are off the charts. I agree with you, to a point, about offering something vital or funny or entertaining, and the people will flock to your site. That’s not my experience. I have 400 followers on Pinterest, 3,400 on Facebook, and about 50 very unloyal subscribers to my blog. If I were any more vital, any funnier, any more entertaining, I’d be on display in a zoo. And people would flock to the reptile exhibit next door.

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    3 AA Harris June 11, 2014 at 5:04 pm

    Great post, and photo.

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    4 Hyphenman June 11, 2014 at 10:36 pm

    Which photo was “great”? I had three of them.

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